David Chaddock

Embracing A New Life

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In response to the Good News of Easter, we are told that we are a new creation.  We hear that our old life has passed away and our new life has come.  This is especially good news for those who are able to embrace this new identity.  Unfortunately, for many this claim doesn’t ring true and they quickly return to a life of negative thoughts, behaviors and habits.  This is not a new struggle, but dates back to the days of Jesus. In his letter to the Romans (7:15), Paul himself states, “I don’t understand my own actions.  For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing that I hate.”  Despite his encounter with the risen Christ, Paul continued to struggle...

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Why We Do What We Do

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Have you ever wondered about why we do what we do?  Have you ever been confused about a pattern in your relationships or struggled with your belief about life and God?  While there may be a number of ways to approach these questions, one popular approach in the mental health community is the concept of Attachment Theory.  The basic idea involves the nature of the bond between the infant and child with his or her primary caregiver(s).  The quality and character of the bond formed has profound effects on the way the child comes to view the world and their relationships in life. The concept of Attachment Theory was originally developed by John Bowlby and further...

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Tip 19 – Renew or deepen your faith in Jesus. Celebrate the love of God.

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Tip 19 – Renew or deepen your faith in Jesus. Celebrate the love of God.

Therapist David Chaddock explains that watching for the “special moments” each year is when he becomes very aware of the presence of God.  Sometimes it happens when leaving the midnight Christmas Eve service.  All seems calm,then it starts to snow.  Sometimes it happens when getting a call or card from a long-time friend and he takes a moment to cherish the relationship. For everyone, these moments come each year, but you have to slow down enough to notice.  By living in the moment, with gratitude, you too can be awakened to the Sacred and it’s a special gift.  Give yourself a gift by embracing the “special moments” provided by Christ this Christmas...

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Tip 10 – Give presenCE rather than presenTS

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Tip 10 – Give presenCE rather than presenTS

Give presenCE rather than presenTS. Offer your full, authentic time instead of searching for the “perfect” gift. Executive Director and Therapist David Chaddock suggests you practice the art of “presence-giving,” not present-giving.  The holidays are a time when we go out of our way to express our love and affection for our family and friends.  Unfortunately, much of our culture has shifted the focus from the giving of ourselves to the giving of gifts.  We become anxious and stressed about finding the “right” gift, when the real gift is what we offer the relationship.  Our greatest gift is our full, authentic presence.  Give the gift of your love and...

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Tip 4 – Manage Expectations

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Tip 4 – Manage Expectations

Manage expectations. Lowering expectations can help us experience true joy. Perhaps sometime in your holiday movie viewing, you watched the movie “Miracle on 34th Street”.  It’s a classic tale of a cynical mother and daughter, hurt by life, that can’t be bothered with believing in Santa Claus.  Executive Director David Chaddock believes that we often approach the holidays burdened by either too much cynicism or too lofty of suggested the media.  Unfortunately, both of these extremes keep us from experiencing the joy of living with gratitude to God and expressing our love and care for our family, friends and neighbors.  This is the true Miracle that can happen...

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Coping with Grief During the Holidays

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The song tells us that it’s “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”, but for people dealing with grief, this time of year may not be so wonderful.  Perhaps more than any other time of year, the holidays can make the feelings of loss and sadness even more intense.  All too often, grief can surprise us during the holidays.  As we begin to share in our holiday traditions and gatherings, we suddenly realize that something is wrong.  Dad isn’t sitting in his usual leather chair.  Mom isn’t here to make our favorite dish.  Grandpa won’t be offering the Christmas prayer at dinnertime.  Junior’s stocking is a reminder that this would have been his 5th...

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