Relationship Tips

Happy Valentine’s Day-Tip 14-Plan a Date

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Happy Valentine’s Day-Tip 14-Plan a Date

While it is customary to take your sweetie out on the actual date, February 14th, it is not always convenient.  However, it is important to plan regular date nights with your partner.  As schedules fill up, it is easy to lose touch with each other and discount the relationship.  However, doing this for too long allows for disconnection.  Planning time together on a regular basis is a must.  It keeps you connected and gives you something to look forward to!

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Relationship Tip 13- Model Love For Others

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Relationship Tip 13- Model Love For Others

Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to show, express,…and model love for others.  Office Coordinator Jennifer Murphy believes this is especially important for parents since children learn how to express their feelings by watching their parents and caregivers.  Use Valentine’s Day as a time when you model healthy expressions of love and teach your children how to express their appreciation of others.  In addition to telling your partner how much you appreciate them, make sure to tell your children the same.

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Relationship Tip 12- Express Appreciation Daily

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Relationship Tip 12- Express Appreciation Daily

All of our CenterPoint therapists agree on the importance of expressing appreciation of others, especially our partners, on a daily basis.  Scott Sweet explains the “5:1 Ratio.”  It takes a minimum of five positive contacts (words of appreciation, questions of interest, touch, eye contact) to make up for one negative contact (a fight, name calling, expression of frustration or anger).  Recognizing even the little, routine things your partner does and expressing appreciation for them can go a long way.  So, remember this valentine’s season to make daily deposits of appreciation in your partner’s love...

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Relationship Tip 11-Single On Valentine’s Day?

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Relationship Tip 11-Single On Valentine’s Day?

Therapist Sandy Berry believes that Valentine’s Day is not just about about your love for a spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend…it also about your love for others in our lives.  So, if you are single, celebrate the day by planning an activity that is fun for you: go to a spa – go to a movie with friends – invite some friends over for dinner – throwing an “Un-Valentine’s Day” party.  Not in the mood to celebrate?  It is ok to treat this day as any other day and stay in your normal routine.

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Relationship Tip 10- Use “I” Messages

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Relationship Tip 10- Use “I” Messages

Therapist Carol Hornbeck suggests that when sharing something with your partner that makes you feel frustrated, be sure to use an “I” message.  “I feel annoyed when I find the gas tank empty;  it would help me if you could let me know ahead of time if you don’t have time to fill it up”  is much easier for your partner to hear than a “you” message such as “why don’t you EVER fill up the gas tank after you use the car?” The “YOU” message is likely to make your partner feel criticized, judged, and less motivated to engage with you to change the...

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Relationship Tip 9-The Power of Compromise

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Relationship Tip 9-The Power of Compromise

Therapist Bunny Alexander agrees that compromise is a necessary part of any strong relationship.  But when two people disagree, they may find it hard to talk constructively, much less to compromise.  Sometimes in a disagreement, we lose sight of what’s important.  “Do I want to be right or do I want to make this relationship better?”  Agreeing to compromise is not saying that you necessarily agree with what the other person did (or said)…it is saying that you are willing to see the situation from their point of view and vice verse.    Learning to negotiate can help move a relationship past the point of disagreement. Starting the conversation...

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