Sandy Berry

Celebrate the 4th with Family Traditions

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Traditions are the transmission of customs or beliefs passed down from generation to generation.  Although you already know this, have you spent a few minutes to determine what traditions you are passing on to your future generations?  Consider July 4th….. what type of food do you serve?  Who is invited to your home?  What time do you have your meal?  Do you watch fireworks, and if so, where and with whom?  Simple actions such as these create memories and traditions that your children and other family members will use to create future events. So take a few minutes and intentionally evaluate the traditions you are passing forward.  If you find you want your...

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One Therapist’s Definition of Therapy

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Therapy is a place where you can begin to discover yourself.  It is a way to increase self-awareness. What is self-awareness?  It is understanding why we do what we do.  To understand ourselves, one model of therapy is to help you look back into childhood, family rules and patterns of behavior, and present behaviors.  Many times, we have created habits, or defense structures, that are based on decisions we made about life when we were young.  We found ways to manage the world around us so that we could function and stay safe.  That way of responding became a habit and, more than likely, you still respond to others in the same way you responded in your past.  That...

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Depression

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The typical symptoms for Depression are loss of interest in usually pleasurable activities, fatigue, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances and apathy.  Men may exhibit irritability, aggression or hostility, while women may exhibit sadness and worthlessness.  If you are not sure if you are depressed, there is a depression screening test online at Psych Central.  It is 18 questions and you will get an immediate score.  Or look on line for another source for depression testing.  (Keep in mind that only a licensed clinician can diagnosis depression – this test in an “indicator” that you may be experiencing depression.) There are many reasons for depression. ...

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Why Does He…? Why Does She…?

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 “Why Does he walk away in the middle of a fight?”  “Why does she follow me around when I need space?” As you can tell from the title above, many couples have opposite responses to arguments.  In our culture, many women move toward their partner when they fight; and many men shut down or leave the room.  Just so you know – this is normal.  It is a dynamic in every relationship.  Imago Relationship Therapy describes this dynamic as “The Octopus and The Turtle.”   The Octopus is the person who reaches toward the other for connection during a fight; and the Turtle is the person who withdraws by either shutting down or leaving the room. Whether you are...

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Tip 23 – Light your favorite candle and savor the fragrance.

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Tip 23 – Light your favorite candle and savor the fragrance.

Counselor Sandy Berry finds that one way to relax is to use her sense of smell.  She suggests you find a scent that evokes a feeling of peace and relaxation.  By doing this, you can change your mood from crabby to calm.  So, in the midst of this holiday rush, be prepared with a candle of your favorite scent.  Buy a few while you are doing your last minute shopping. Put them in your office and home.  And, at the end of the day, when you feel irritated, annoyed and tired, take a few minutes for yourself.  Light your favorite candle, sit down and breathe in a positive experience.  Your body will begin to relax and your mood will follow.  When you blow out the...

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Tip 9 – Schedule Quiet Time

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Tip 9 – Schedule Quiet Time

Schedule quiet time. Pick a few moments each day to notice the world around you! For therapist Caroline Steward, quiet time for herself is the best way to re-energize. Therapist Sandy Berry also explains that life can only be lived in the moment; one moment at a time.  Of course it is always good to plan your future but you can only live it right now.  Don’t get lost in the future or the past this holiday season – stay in the now.  Pick a few moments each day to notice the world around you, have quiet time, listen to the sounds, the smells, the sights around you. Be aware of your body. Take in a deep breath…relax in this very quiet moment in time………. ...

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