Posts Tagged "marriage"

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Posted by in Articles, David Chaddock

Life is full of challenging questions.  One of the most soul-wrenching questions is whether you should stay in your struggling marriage (relationship) or not.  This decision impacts every aspect of your life.  With so much on the line, this decision is difficult and overwhelming.  Many women ask themselves, “What happened to my marriage and can it be saved?” Two key ingredients for any successful relationship are a sense of “connection” and “care-giving”, which we all desire.  Early in a relationship, we enjoy a fun connection and would do anything to help each other.  Kindness and affection flows easily. As the relationship becomes more established,...

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Put Some Spring in Your Relationship!

Posted by in Articles, Sandy Berry

by Sandy Berry Thank goodness, Spring is here.  The air is fresh, we are able to go outside and play, and the sun actually exists!  It is a time of renewal.  So copy Spring and renew the energy in your love relationship! One way to increase the energy in your relationship is to do something fun together.  Usually each person has their own idea of fun (which doesn’t always match their partner’s idea).  Ask your partner to do your fun this week, and then you will do their fun next week.  Take the time to have fun, play and laugh together.  And like Spring, it will brighten your...

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The Platinum Rule of Relationship

Posted by in Articles, Sandy Berry

by Sandy Berry Many of us learned how to treat others when we were children practicing the Golden Rule:  Do Unto Others As You Would Have Done Unto You.  It is a great standard.   Here is another great idea; it is the Platinum Rule that you can add to your standard rules that enhance your relationships. The Platinum Rule states:  Do Unto Others As They Want You To Do Unto Them. Every person has a unique way to see the world, and we would fair better in relationship if we learn what our partner wants or needs.  Would they prefer an act of service, a gift, words of affirmation, time spent together, or physical touch (suggestions from Gary Chapman’s book, The Five...

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Imago — A New Way to Love

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by Sandy Berry Imago Relationship Therapy is a theory that believes couples choose each other so that each person can grown into their full aliveness – full aliveness is that wonderful feeling you felt in the beginning of your relationship.  At some point in relationship, feeling fully alive begins to fade.  We find our relationship to be a place of conflict and lost hope.    Imago believes that this phase of all love relationships is a normal.  Our culture tells us to leave if a relationship gets too difficult.  But don’t leave!  Imago theory believes that the conflict in your relationship is an indicator that you are with the perfect person to help you grow...

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The Invisible Divorce: Relationship Exits

Posted by in Articles, Sandy Berry

by Sandy Berry A relationship “exit” is defined as ways you prevent intimacy by using energy to create conflict or to avoid involvement. Exits are activities we do in order to avoid dealing with feelings we have about or toward our partner or our relationship.  Rather than talking with your partner, you choose not to discuss it with them and use that energy doing something else.  This leaks energy from your relationship and reduces your ability to resolve conflict or to increase intimacy. Examples of exits are: Major Exits might include affairs, addictions, or divorce. Minor Exits might include cleaning the house, spending time with others (children, friends or...

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